Get off your point of view

Do you want to be right, or do you want your life to work?

This is an extremely powerful question that can change the nature of the important relationships in your personal life and at work. It could even change the future of countries that are currently putting coalition governments in place. Can they put aside their differences and power struggles to make their countries work better for everyone?

When you get stuck on your point of view, and become righteous about it, then:

• One party in the relationship will always be wrong
• There will always be the threat of judgement
• Many conditions will be imposed
• Withdrawal from the relationship will be an ever present reality

In other words, fear rules instead of being curious about what could happen if you gave up being right in order for things to work for both parties.

We must give up perfect and strive for workable in every area of our lives (unless you are folding someone’s parachute or doing brain surgery, of course!).

Next time you reach an impasse with someone important to you, or a party or business you are negotiating/butting heads with, can you be bold enough to challenge the stalemate or the power struggle by asking this question of each other, “Do we want to be right, or do we want life/this to work?”

When you can get off your high horse/point of view, it’s amazing how much can change, how you see the other person/party differently, how quickly things can move, and how much less effort it takes for change to happen. You can choose the easy way or the hard way, it’s up to you.

I was gifted this challenging question, ‘Do you want to be right, or do you want your life to work?’, many years ago when I attended the Quest life transformation seminars. I apply it regularly in various areas of life and business. It’s a powerful mindset shift that I am sure will benefit you too.

I love these lines from poet and spiritual teacher, Rumi, that epitomise this topic for me:

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,

there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”

From the poem, The Great Wagon, by Rumi

Have an empowered week as you get off your point of view to see if you can make a more workable world. I think it’s worth a try.

Human Potential Expert