“If you have a pulse, you have a purpose.” I just love this line from my podcast guest this week, Angelique du Toit. So, what is your purpose, regardless of what you have been through in your life? What keeps you here and keeps you going?
In this episode, you will hear that fear is a force that you can either confront or run away from. You will be challenged as to whether you are operating from inspiration or desperation; that you have to be in it to win it; and that you have to make a choice to make a change.
Angelique du Toit is a global speaker who has travelled the ups and downs of life, and shares her wisdom and insights with such eloquence. She entered the world of work at the age of 14 out of necessity, as an apprentice hairdresser, coming from a background of abuse. She describes some of her crossroad moments in which she chose to do life differently, pulling her back from the brink of despair.
After her husband’s sudden passing at the end of 2019, Angelique was registering his death in Italy in early 2020 when the global pandemic lockdown came into force. She spent most of that year isolated and grieving alone. Her mantra (that I remember well from the first talk of hers that I attended many years ago) was to be put to the test, once again, under extreme conditions: You win or you lose by the way that you choose.
Listen, learn and be inspired by our conversation.
THE CONVERSATION COVERS:
- How to tell a new story when a new chapter opens
- What in the world are you waiting for?
- How to live with hands, hearts, minds and eyes wide open
- Walking into your fear
- Choosing to really live instead of merely existing
- Not letting people trespass your boundaries
- Fighting against patterns of abuse (your own and others)
- Your power to turn things around
- Frustration is a sign that change is needed
- You have to be in it to win it
- Being powerful and authoritative in a soft and feminine way
- Why most people stop before they start
“Fear is a force and unless it is brought under control, it will actually control you.”
Angelique du Toit
“It’s impossible to run away from yourself, because then you run away to substances, to addictions, to dependencies.”
Angelique du Toit
“If we don’t have those internal boundaries and that internal structure in our lives, we will have people trespassing our boundaries; and then we can’t figure out why we feel so angry or frustrated or irritated, but it’s actually not the other person’s fault.”
Angelique du Toit
“I think with baby steps, eventually those steps become a bit bigger, and then each day you have a victory and you move into the next day with a mindset of victory. And so it really was a slow process. I’m not going to say it happened overnight, but I held myself accountable.”
Angelique du Toit
“Saddle the horse of your why, and leave your lie behind.”
Angelique du Toit
“I have watched someone not be able to keep their own breath in their own lungs. We can control nothing. The only thing we can do every day is just live with deep, deep gratitude, because life is full of uncertainties; life is unpredictable.”
Angelique du Toit
“If you’re curious enough to wonder where these things might be taking you, it’s a leap of faith, I guess. The word ‘curious’ is important, because for me that has been a large part of this re-emergence – remaining curious. What is left for me? What is there for me still to discover? Who is it that I can connect with? Who is it that I can collaborate with? The possibilities are endless, but in order to take advantage of those in the right sense, you’ve got to find some courage.”
Angelique du Toit
“Most people stop at the start because we feel defeated, therefore we become depleted. We tend to have perfectionist tendencies. We don’t start because it’s never the perfect time, or we don’t finish something because it isn’t quite perfect.”
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